It’s been quite an interesting time of late!
Over the last month I’ve given myself time and space to integrate challenging emotional shifts.
I felt like I was being dealt a deck of difficult cards and I wanted to understand the rules and get on with with living my life because that’s what I do.
I wanted to grow and integrate these intense emotions quickly because I like to name my elephants and move on!
A client and I were sharing yesterday how growth, in expansive phase, can feel addictive. We love it because we feel powerful whereas contraction is something we tend to resist and usually avoid.
Contraction is when we need to slow down to integrate, feel, express and experience those intense emotions.
When we are contracting or in a state of “I don’t know what is going on or why I’m feeling what I’m feeling” we can’t see much further beyond what we are experiencing.
And just as well because when we are contracting we need to let go of what is out there and surrender to contraction or “shedding shit”- a phrase we came to use often at our last level 2 retreat. Needless to say it was embraced by everyone! (Level 2 is a retreat for women who’ve attended The Empowered Woman Retreat ).
Contraction is important for our well-being and journey. It helps us heal and gives us insight into the next part of our journey.
But we don’t like it because we don’t like not knowing and feeling the intensity of our negative emotions.
And like with anything we don’t understand we seek to understand by asking questions such as:
- What does this mean?
- What do I need to do?
- What should I do?
- How do I stop this or get out of this?
Staying in the question is important but challenging because it means asking but not doing.
We ask these questions because it’s an in-built part of our growth mechanism.
There is nothing wrong with this when it’s done patiently but we mostly want to hurry the process and by-pass the experiencing and expressing part of contraction.
Yet this very process is what helps us to reposition our power. It’s how we gain insight, derive meaning and awaken our potential.
Questioning and doubting are inherent part of these experiences. They go hand in hand and their role is to help us check-in and stay aligned with our truth.
But too much self-doubt is also not good as it can lead to depression, anxiety and apathy.
When we understand the role of doubt and questioning we don’t need to have a strong hold on it.
Acknowledge it and allow yourself to drop into it without having to have a hold on what it is. We are being asked to dive deep into darkness.
Stay in doubt but do so with trust. Know that doubt is essential.
Doubt is a gift of insight and it’s part of our inner guidance system.
If you ready to integrate challenging and contracting times in your life, you’ll learn how to do that at The Empowered Woman Retreat. Together we will dive deep to reclaim and realign your truth and own your fears.
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