The Difference Between Those Who Flourish and Those Who Get Stuck: Which Camp Are You In?
Most change that happens in life is fraught with anxiety and apprehension. It’s thoughts like:
“What if it doesn’t work out?”
“What if something bad happens?”
“What if it doesn’t succeed or go to plan?”
“I can’t trust myself that I can make it”
which can make you really suffer at the mercy of life’s curve balls!
So which camp do you fall in? Are you someone who runs away from change or embraces change- even if you don’t know exactly what the future holds?
Here are 7 tendencies of those who embrace change and make the most if it:
They believe that change is important and the only constant in life.
They frequently initiate change. They don’t wait for things to get comfortable because they know that comfort equates stagnation.
They see opportunity in change to innovate, problem-solve, and disrupt the status-quo not just for the sake of it, but because they genuinely want to help make a difference and provide a solution to something that no longer works.
They stay present to change and use their emotional-intelligence to guide their action. They are rarely drawn into other people’s anxiety, drama and negativity.
They are flexible and quickly adapt to change. They don’t waste time holding grudges or judging things as bad but look at how to make meaning and move forward.
They ask powerful questions such as “what does this mean for me and others?” “What do I need to learn from this” “What is the opportunity in this?”
They ask for help to if they get stuck or are not unsure how to move forward.
Notice, that each one of these tendencies is actually a mindset which stems from healthy and adaptive beliefs. If your beliefs about change are negative,this will be reflected in how you respond to change or to life’s big transitions such as a new job, moving homes, relationship break-up, divorce, financial problems, death in family and other major turning points in life.
Being aware of what beliefs guide your actions is important.You may intellectually think that you’ve got your beliefs down-pat sorted but if you notice that you get emotionally triggered by other people’s remarks or actions then it may be time to take an honest inventory of your beliefs.
Beliefs trigger emotions in the brain and body.So your body may be telling a different story to your mind. The body is actually a more accurate barometer of our beliefs then the mind because emotions related to our beliefs get stored in the body.
So, if you think you may need to upgrade or perhaps tweak some of your beliefs relating to change, then the list below may be a great start to help you with this process:
“Change helps me grow and be a better person”
“Change is required to help me see things from a different perspective”
“Change is refreshing and revitalising”
“Change brings me closer to my truth”.
“People in my life are there to help me grow and carry out my mission”
“There is no good or bad. Each change is a Divine Intervention to help me experience more joy, love, freedom and inner peace”
“Change teaches me to stay present, in my power and on purpose”
“Each change brings me closer to my vision”
“Change is an exciting opportunity that brings me and others abundance”
“Change helps me expand what is possible for my life”
“Change helps me unleash my potential”
“Change makes me more authentic and see things for how they really are”
Notice which beliefs resonate with you and why? If you’re serious about embodying more empowering beliefs then you need to translate your new beliefs into action. How so?
Let’s say for example that you’re in the midsts of change. Things at work are unstable and you’re uncertain if you’ll a job by the end of this year.
You choose the following belief to help guide you through this uncertain period of change:
“Change helps me expand what is possible for my life” .
You can start to action this belief by networking with people in your industry. This may bring you closer to opportunities of having your ideal job which may be working for a small agency where people are more relaxed and fun but still committed and on purpose.
And to help you further embody this new belief, why not celebrate what you’ve achieved so far, regardless of what is going to happen from here on. When you celebrate your past achievements, essentially what you’re saying to the whole of existence is “Hey,no matter what, each and every thing that happens in my life brings me more abundance, more good, love and joy. So let’s bring on more good. I’m ready to welcome nothing short of amazingness in my life!!”. You see where I’m going with this??
I choose to see each situation, challenge or not, as helping me grow, be more present, be in my power and on purpose. Nothing less. I choose to let it empower me- even after hours of crying
So, here’s to your empowerment!
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